Having Trouble with My “Shoulds”

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It’s been a weird year.

My new job, which is the third new one in as many years, is going well, but adjusting to a new team while working fully remote has its challenges. The loss of my mom to Alzheimer’s, and the unexpected loss of identity not only as a daughter (orphaned now?) but also as a caregiver — I was Mom’s primary one for several years — has been even harder than anticipated (and I thought I was…